Please note this may not apply to everyone. I’ve witnessed people do the absolute opposite. But thankfully I’m not friends with them, so I’m ok.
No seriously, do you listen to your friends? Do your friends listen to you? Sometimes I can get so caught up in myself that I forget to actually just listen to my friends and find out how they are and what have they been doing – even if they haven’t done anything.
Oh my gosh, this is a big one. I’ve had people that I classified as friends in the past and thought that they had been honest with me. Nah, actually I knew when they lied and that’s why we are no longer friends. Honesty is a huge factor in friendship. If you don’t have it you have to ask yourself why? Why are you not honest with each other.
This is also of huge importance for me. I need to trust your loyalty. Don’t get me wrong, there are times when this is tested but I have to know you are very a loyal person, seriously. I am very careful when I meet people. I find myself testing them (unconsciously). If my sprit doesn’t take to them, then I just don’t trust them. It’s not foolproof but it’s a good start.
Respect or the lack of it is a major sign for things to come in any relationship. A person who does not respect you enough or not at all, is telling you that he or she places little or no value on you! ……and what happens to things of little or no value? They end up in the thrash bin!So if you hang around such people, don’t be surprised when they start treating you like thrash!
5. Personal Space
I always need my space. I crave for it and luckily I have good friends who understand and respect that. In the past I’ve met people who didn’t like it and take it completely the wrong way but it’s about understanding someone’s personality and recognising that we are all different in some ways. It’s about understanding your friends.
This is something I have learnt the hard way, seriously. Forgiveness is so important. There’s so much power in forgiveness. People do make mistakes and if you can forgive them, it can sometimes make the relationship stronger and better. There are people who may no longer even be your friends but just forgiving them for their wrongdoings towards you is peace of mind for you; and release for them.
Believe me, Try the 6 guidelines above.Now I am not an expert in relationships, I promise you, but I have seen several people come and go; and I can finally confidently say that I have been blessed with the most loyal and trustworthy people around me, thank God!